Friday, March 30, 2007

Haiga (click to enlarge)

The photo was taken in the eighties in the countryside outside of Pageland, South Carolina, where I grew up.

Wednesday, March 28, 2007

One of the top ranked blogs on MySpace

Nope, not a poetry blog. Nope, not a blog about world affairs. Nope, not even a music site. The Suicide Girls is sweeping myspace with photos posted every day that skirt the MySpace ban of nudity with their suggestive and interesting photos. I've not been to their website. I don't think I'm ready to look there yet. At any rate, here's one of today's images to give you a taste of what people want to see. Quite a change from the old Playboy days. Click to enlarge.

Friday, March 23, 2007

Interesting and fun blog

Just read the current posts and then skim down the archived topics on the side. I stumbled across this blog googling for something else. Want to read about the water bridge in Germany or the barber who cuts hair using fire or how music makes you smarter or the man with the longest tongue??:-) Click HERE for the Spluch Blog, now also in my links under fun sites.

Wednesday, March 21, 2007

When Mini-Skirts Ruled the World!

St Louis, Missouri. Before an evening out with friends.

Monday, March 19, 2007


I expected my father's death
to draw the ocean to my feet,
the water threatening to bear me
away with it--not mother's.
Our voices were constant coils
of disagreement; my hair was too long.
I was too thin. My clothes were too tight.
My mish-mash of dishes would never do
if the relatives came down for Christmas.
I lived 'in sin' with a man, traveled with him,
tossed away my bra to her mortification.
After my knees buckled
and this illness pinned me to my bed of thorns,
the core of metal between us softened,
became a pillow to rest our heads upon, but
she slipped quietly into that undertow
and I was left alone on the beach, a girl again,

Friday, March 16, 2007

Today (My post from exactly a year ago today)

I decided to go back into my archives and see what was there a year ago this date. I hoped it would be something more poetic:-) I may do this again from time to time. It's interesting to see. NOTE: By just changing the date, the post came forward in time with the old comments to it, now mixed with the new.

The post:

I'm still not sitting much at all and am still soaking, but the pain decreases each day, thank goodness. This morning I dragged my tripod out onto the patio to try to get a decent bio shot for publications, since the last one I really like, over by the ocean is two years old now. Did manage to get one and feel industrious, instead of slothlike. In this one, I'm trying to set the self-timer, but the camera went off. I have two bonded teeth with the bonding gone bad and with all that's gone on, I've had to live with two VERY yellow teeth up front for a while longer. You can see them if you look close enough. I'm still dealing with aging, too, so here I am, worts and all. No air brushing. No plastic surgery. Just jowling, sinking-with-gravity me:-)

Geoff Sanderson did it again and made another haiga for me. I have to say I like the photo better in this haiga than the one taken by my old camcorder. Thanks, Geoff! Yes, reaching for the future while rooted in today.

I may not get around to visiting as many blogs yet for a while, but I'll gradually do that, too. And thanks to all of you who've left caring messages. They mean a lot.


Friday, March 09, 2007

Red Pris in Triplicate (Click to Enlarge)

I love fiddling with graphics. This is one I did about a year ago.

Tuesday, March 06, 2007


My ugly duckling days transformed into a haiga:-) Click to enlarge.

Saturday, March 03, 2007

To the ocean yesterday and back with HAIGA!

Yesterday, the dizziness abated enough for me to ride over to the ocean with my husband and take a few photographs of the ocean I love so very much. I was on the sidewalk that runs alongside the beach and got two of these with zoom. The wind was out of the south and the late afternoon was warm and balmy. We only stayed about 20 minutes, but it's the first time I've been up to that for months now. The angels have blessed me, indeed!

Click on the haiga to enlarge.

Thursday, March 01, 2007

Relevant information by Katrina Berne on CFIDS

(Katrina Berne is a therapist who also has CFIDS. She's able to work part-time. Some with this illness can. Some can't. We're all different)

The below information is from this website

Inside every sick person is a well person wondering what the hell happened.

Welcome to the world of Living With Illness.

Chronic illness is a life experience like no other. It leaves no aspect of our lives untouched, creating uncertainty, self-doubt, losses and limitations, adjustment issues, and a lot of hard work. Illness changes the way we see ourselves and alters our perceptions of the world around us.

Learning to adapt and to live differently is perhaps the greatest challenge we will ever face.

We mourn the loss of life as it was and ultimately learn to create a “new normal.” Although at times we feel defenseless against forces we cannot control, we find options for creating meaningful lives despite significant obstacles.

It is a testimony to the resilience of the human spirit that we learn to endure and ultimately to grow. We learn to make changes when we can and to accept what we cannot change. At times our spirits may flag, causing us to wonder how we can possibly go on...and yet we do.

Those in good health cannot possibly understand the ordeals of chronic illness. They may be supportive or skeptical; they may come closer or back away. Our careers may continue, or come to a screeching halt. Nothing can be planned with certainty. Fluctuating symptoms turn every “yes” into “maybe” or “I hope so.” The coping mechanisms that once worked so well no longer apply. The things we had counted on in life become dreams rather than expectations.

Viktor Frankl wrote:
“We may also find meaning in life even when confronted with a hopeless situation, when facing a fate that cannot be changed. For what matters then is to bear witness to the uniquely human potential at its best, which is to transform a personal tragedy into a triumph to turn one’s predicament into a human achievement. “

We accept that life is not the way it was, and for many of us, this change is permanent. The keys to coping are within us, but are often difficult to find. We face chronic illness first as an overwhelming difficulty, and then as something to be endured. Over time we learn to make the best of what we have, or to “paint with the colors we have left.” Drawing upon newly developed strengths, we find new ways to navigate our lives.

Despite the obstacles we encounter, we find help along the way. Education provides new information about illness and treatment options. Support helps us to face our fears and concerns and puts us in touch with others who speak our language so we don’t feel quite as alone. Hope and humor help us to survive, to continue to put one foot in front of the other, and even to laugh. I hope this website will help you in all of these ways.

Katrina Berne


“I never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity.” – Hanlon

We may assume that others can understand our illness if they try hard enough but that most don’t care about us enough to try that hard. In fact, no one without the illness can truly understand what the illness experience is like. Even with the best of intentions, they may misconstrue our experiences and what we say and do and make what we perceive as insensitive statements. Our symptoms vary unpredictably and how we look doesn’t reflect how we feel, leading to confusion. Sensory overload is difficult for anyone to understand; after all, who doesn’t enjoy dinner music along with conversation? (We don’t; it may feel like a train wreck in our heads.)

We can plan our responses to typical statements, such as:
STATEMENT: “You look fine. You must be feeling better.”
RESPONSE: “Don’t let my appearance deceive you.”

STATEMENT: “You don’t look handicapped.” (when you’ve parked in a handicapped space)
RESPONSE: “Some illnesses are invisible.”

Handling unwanted advice is tricky. Well-intentioned folks will suggest you might get well if you exercised, took certain supplements, prayed or had faith, or followed a particular diet.

Again the two-step process is helpful. For example, “I realize you are trying to be helpful, but...” The second part of the statement may be along the lines of “...I’ve tried that and it hasn’t worked,” or “...there is no universally successful approach to treating this illness.”

STATEMENT: “You just need to exercise more.”
RESPONSE: “Stretching helps. Exertional exercise makes me sicker.”

STATEMENT: “My friend took ___(supplement or other product) and got better.”
RESPONSE: “Thanks for the suggestion. Unfortunately we all respond differently to treatments.”

Of course we want to respond differently - and probably sarcastically - but this generally causes more trouble than it’s worth.

Disagreeing can be productive. It’s important to air differences and come to an agreement, or simply agree to disagree when it’s clear you’ll never see eye-to-eye with the other person.

Disagreeing can be a simple two-step process:
Acknowledge the other person’s belief.
State your own.

Example: “I realize it doesn’t seem like a big effort to you to go shopping and out to dinner but it’s often very difficult or even impossible for me to do either.”

For example, “I understand you believe, but my thought on this
matter is ______.
When arguing, strive to remain calm.
Stick to the topic at hand, and avoid the trap of refighting the past.

Maintain eye contact.
Keep your statements simple and to the point.
Don’t get sidetracked or derailed.

Don’t let the other person’s behavior (e.g., shouting) determine your own. Keep your voice calm, a very powerful technique when the other is escalating

We don’t see things as they are; we see things as we are.
Anais Nin